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Choose a time for 15 or 30 minutes in which there are no interruptions.  No phones, no kids, no TV, no talking—no distractions.  This is important to gaining maximum benefit.  With the right music (Visit our store for some suggestions), husband and wife sit or lay down together in a comfortable place.  The goal is to become of aware of God, the Son—Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit’s presence and each of your need for His unconditional love.  At the end of your time with God, write down in your own respective journals what happened during this time.  Share your experience if your relationship permits.  Repeat. 

We can’t explain what happens as Christ interacts with each during these times.  But, we  have witnessed God miraculously change husbands’ and wives’ hearts and minds during these times!  Connection with God enables husbands and wives to connect with each other.  Remember, it always was, is and will be God’s desire to commune with is people. 

One question couples usually have is: What if my spouse is practicing sin, or there is unconfessed sin in one of our lives?  God knows all.  Receive His presence, He'll tell you what to do from there.  Trust is the key:

All whom My Father gives (entrusts) to Me will come to Me; and the one who comes to Me I will most certainly not cast out [I will never, no never, reject one of them who comes to Me]. John 6:37 (Amplified Version)

And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.  Hebrews 11: 6 (Amplified Version)

Note: Soaking is not for audible prayers, petitioning God for something, reading His Word to Him (He knows it!), but rather thanking Him for making you aware of His presence.  And the best way to do this is simply receive Him.

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We suggest Radical Love – a 12-week, truly faith-based, marriage skills building program implemented in a small group format.  Group meets for 2 hours per week, for 12-weeks.  Format includes: lesson, discussion and homework.  Husband and wife receive their own workbooks. Cost varies per location.  Click here to find a group near you.

Read actual testimonies from those having completed the course!

Tres Dias (TD) is a non-denominational 3-day Christian Retreat.  TD Weekends take place all over the world and are open to Christians of all denominations. Couples have been profoundly impacted during these retreats.  In response to God’s unconditional love, husbands and wives have been set free from sin and weights carried over the course of their lives.  Many RL Alumni have participated in the TD Weekends and suggest it as an experience every Christian deserves!

Couples attend separately.  All weekends are same sex.  There is TD Weekend for husbands, followed by one for wives.

In order to participate in a TD Weekend, someone that has already been to the Retreat must sponsor you.  To find a TD Community and Sponsorship near you click here, and click on, then click on “Other Communities.”

The Church is God’s answer for Christians to learn, experience and grow in knowledge and relationship with God and each other.  Every married couple that professes Christ’s requires the benefit of a good     church.  

A good church follows the apostles teaching and prays together.  Members share their lives and stories with one another. Healing comes through relationship.  And whatever is withheld from relationship cannot be healed.  In a good church, there will be opportunities to connect with those whom God would have you share your lives and those lives whom He intends you to receive.

“They devoted themselves to the apostles' teaching and to the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. Everyone was filled with awe, and many wonders and miraculous signs were done by the apostles. All the believers were together and had everything in common. Selling their possessions and goods, they gave to anyone as he had need. Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people. And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved.” (Acts 2: 42 – 47 NIV)

Does your church offer this?  Perhaps these things haven’t been your priority in belonging to the church.  However, they remain God’s priority: as the world will distinguish us by how well we love one another!  

Do this:

1. Pray and ask God what He would have you experience and commit to church life?
2. Whether the decision is to go or stay, commit to 60-90 days exclusively to familiarizing or re-familiarizing yourselves to the teaching with intent to consciously adhere.  Be learners; ask spiritual questions of each other, other members, the leaders and even the pastor.  The only dumb question is the one not asked.  And by the way, contrary to the world, it is okay in God’s house to not know something and need to ask!  During this time relinquish your responsibilities and just be part of the church for a moment.
3. Wherever you end up, make it a priority to really get to know the people, especially outside of service and meeting times.  Invite them over, out to eat or a non-church related event. Have a few couples or families over at a time. Watch a movie and discuss it afterwards, including the spiritual implications and how it might apply to your lives.  Discuss the teaching you are receiving and the impact it is having upon you.  Explore the topic further in the bible with a few other couples. Offer your help to another on a non-church related project.  There are tons of things you can do to get to know the people.  And since the people are the heart of the ministry and the Body of Christ in the earth, getting to know just makes good sense!

God is preparing a bride without blemish for His Son, Jesus Christ.  Toward this end, churches are like washing machines and dryers.  All churches have people that behave as detergent, stain removers, and fabric softeners.  All churches have agitators, spin cycles, lint screens and produce heat that some find personally uncomfortable, yet all necessary to preparing us to see Jesus!  The Point:  There is no perfect,  always make me agree with me church!  It would defy the notion that we need to change!

Let’s face it!  Sometimes we all need the benefit of a knowledgeable and trained ear!  Couples are no different.  When talking together reaches a dead end, or you are experiencing the same argument:  different day, pastoral or professional help might be needed.  

Counseling might be optimal for those in crisis to facilitate preparation for other alternatives.

In seeking help, know what you are getting:

Pastoral Counseling – a seminary or non- seminary trained, ordained or licensed minister.  Generally, this individual has no professional psychology or counseling training.  Counsel or advice is scriptural.  Some pastoral counselors use non-biblical aids, books borrowed from other  disciplines such as psychology and self-help.  Upon conclusion, if there is no marked improvement in the quality of interactions, a professional counselor may be needed.

Psychologists, Social Workers and Therapists – can specialize in providing marriage counseling.  Some indicate that they are “Christian,” but this does not necessarily mean there  approach is Christian.  The benefit of these professionals is an understanding of the mental and  emotional underpinnings motivating behavior.  While this is helpful, please understand that all behavior has a spiritual origin or root and at some point must be addressed.

Contrary to perceptions based on movies and perhaps experience, deliverance does not have to be a knockdown drag ‘em out with the devil.  For learners, much of deliverance involves understanding and claiming your identity in Christ, knowing how to use the authority available to you and a desire to be free from person, place or thing, including spirit that is preventing from yielding to God and enjoying and active, vibrant relationship with Christ and your spouse!  Below are some ministries you might consider:

Ancient Paths Seminars - The Ancient Paths Seminars are a balanced ministry of Biblical teaching followed by Spirit-led praying in small groups based upon  Jeremiah 6:16.

Theophostic Prayer – Christ-centered prayers that recognize one’s present situation is rarely the true cause of his or her chronic emotional pain.  Individual and couple sessions are available.

Cleansing Streams – A Seminar and Cleansing Weekend in which biblical truths are taught, concluding in a weekend in which participants experience spiritual, mental and emotional freedom.

No, this doesn’t have anything to do with praying for a windfall, or the latest and greatest get rich formula for Christians—they have those too, you know!

Contrary to public opinion and the misguided beliefs of some that have divorced, money does not cause divorce!  Money is an inanimate object and as such possesses no life of its own!  We that use and depend on it give it life.  Therefore, it is what husbands and wives believe about money and how they respond to money to money that matters.  And when their beliefs are in conflict with God and/or each other it causes problems.  And they can be big problems including, enormous credit card debt, bankruptcy, repossession of homes cars and even careless and riotous living.  

Getting your financial house in order might be the first step in relieving the pressure from your interactions.  Developing a plan and executing that plan together not only will improve your relate-ability, but my result in real financial improvements to the quality of your lifestyle.  

We have provided some financial resources below:

Crown Ministries - Coaches work with couples and individuals, helping them develop a personal spending plan, apply Biblical principles of stewardship, build a plan to get out of debt, and achieve spiritual and financial freedom. There is no fee for this service.

Dave Ramsey - Life-changing program that teaches you how to make the right decisions with your money. You'll be empowered with the practical skills and confidence needed to achieve your financial goals and experience true financial peace